In truth, depression is more than just a state of mind.
It’s a constant state of mind.
The difference? You can shake off a normal state of mind over a very short time period.
The difference becomes that much more meaningful whenever you are suffering from actual depression.
It comes to the point that depression lies to you about everything.
After all, depression is your perception when you are depressed, so what if… you just so happen to see things wrong?
This is actually far too common, depressed people tend to have all of these annoying, self-limiting, beliefs. Unfortunately, that includes me to some extent as well.
If you don’t happen to know what I am talking about then maybe you should open your ears and listen to what you have to say.
If you are someone who spends some time with depressed people this article will help you out with their pesky mindset, if only a little bit.
Alright, so here are a few ways that depression lies to you and ruins your life! Well, that’s a bit of a mouthful.
1) “You can’t do this”
One of the most common things that depression tells you is how incompetent you are, how you were meant to fail at whatever it is that you are doing and so on.
Now don’t get me wrong, no one can do everything, believing otherwise is idiotic at best and flat-out harmful at worst.
But believing the other way around is just as harmful to you as having too much faith.
If you don’t believe in yourself you won’t take action.
If you won’t take action then your condition isn’t going to be any better for you.
Sure, you might fail, but that already increases the probability of success from 0% to at least some actual number, yeah?
Not trying doesn’t mean not failing, it means failing before you even get started. Honestly, which one of those is worse in your opinion?
In actuality, many people who suffered from depression ended up amounting to great things.
Some examples include:
- Abraham Lincoln
- J.K Rowling
- Sigmund Freud
- Ellen DeGeneres
- Siddhartha Gautama A.K.A Buddha
So really, these are nothing but self-limiting beliefs.
You won’t succeed if you don’t try.
Heck, you might not even succeed if you do your best.
But if you do succeed, won’t it be worth it?
Yeah, that’s what I thought
2) “Nobody cares about you”
This one is also very common.
Depressed people tend to believe that no one cares about their well-being.
They are right, too! Well, kind of.
This may come off as disagreeable, but people are fundamentally selfish.
You are the most important person in your own world, no one else actually has any importance at all.
The way ‘you’ feel about something makes it important – it’s always about you.
Don’t get it? Here’s a quick example.
Say you are walking down the street on your way back home after a long day of work.
So far so good, yeah?
Then you see this old lady carrying a bunch of bags, she is clearly struggling so you decide to help.
So you help her.
She thanks you, all the while claiming how wonderful a person you are, and goes on her way.
You might think that you weren’t being selfish, but you were!
You felt a need to help this old lady, and once you did you felt good about yourself.
This is what we call ’empathy’, and it’s a subjective little thing.
In the end, even while helping others, you are only – doing this for your own personal gain.
Sounds pretty cold, right? It’s a universal truth though – due to your thought process being so subjective you can’t truly think about others rather than yourself.
As such, it stands to reason that they can’t truly think about you, yeah? They won’t, either.
Instead, they will think about themselves.
You have people that cherish you deeply, seeing you go through all of this pain will trigger a reaction out of them and they will act.
People might only be able to care about themselves, but they will still be happy helping you out.
Seeing you suffer hurts them – do you want these people to feel hurt?
By recognizing their feeling you can help yourself feel better in the long run.
In the end, isn’t that the most important thing to you?
Speaking of which…
3) “You need them to leave you alone”
Depression whispers in your ear that other people don’t care about you.
This would imply that depressed people need to be left alone, yeah?
After all, what’s the purpose of surrounding yourself with a bunch of cold-blooded jerks who only care about themselves?
As such, you end up pushing them away from you.
The nerve of them, trying to comfort you without actually caring or understanding what you are going through.
Sounds about right? The answer may surprise you.
The truth is that humans need people, crippling social insecurities aside, and a lack of human interaction can be devastating to your mental health.
It doesn’t mean having lots of friends or talking to people a lot, but rather having depth in conversation.
Even the most social people can be depressed – we need meaningful interactions with other people to truly be happy.
In a research conducted way back in the year 2000 two groups of people were chosen – depressed people and not depressed people.
While questioned about their social interactions, there hasn’t been much of a difference in terms of amount. There has been a difference in terms of meaning and intimacy though.
People with depression are much more likely to lack in meaningful relationships. As such, believing that they are better off alone, depressed people choose to ignore the company of others.
A terrible mistake, considering how desperate humans can be at times.
Here’s the truth – find people that you hold close to you, that you like, and develop your relationship with them.
It might be uncomfortable, your brain might fight it, but it’s important for you to surround yourself with people that mean much to you.
They are one of the only ways for you to pull yourself out of the black hole that is known as depression.
4) “You are at fault”
That’s actually a better question than you might thing.
Extreme sense of guilt is a symptom of both anxiety and depression.
It comes from the brain’s need to justify your actions and your low self-esteem whenever you are depressed.
You feel and then your brain uses “logic” to justify these feelings impulsively.
When you are depressed your sense of self-worth is so low that you end up thinking that you are at fault for every bad thing that happens around you.
After all, you are the weakest link.
Or so you think at least.
Fact is, you are most likely to be average.
If you are, then it means that about 50% of people are worse off than yourself, with the other 50% of the population being better than you.
That isn’t quite as bad being the worst and not doing enough, yeah? Some could have done more than you did, some could have done only less.
There are always ups and down, so putting yourself in the “downs” section of life all the time won’t do you any good.
Take it from me.
5) “You are better off dead”
Oh boy, consider that nerve touched.
Suicide is a pretty touchy subject, and right now I am poking it with a flaming, spinning, chainsaw – but this stuff needs to be said.
All of the ways that depression lies to you that I have mentioned thus far lead to this one conclusion.
You believe that you can’t do anything, which only makes you feel even more worthless.
That feeling increases your guilt, since you must be at fault (the “weak link” mindset).
Others try to reach out to you, you block them off to sit alone and cry about how no one cares.
Y’see, it’s all connected!
At this point of your depression you simply ask yourself whether or not there is a point for you to continue living. You can’t do anything right, everyone hates you, you are always judged, you are forever doomed to be alone…
What’s the point in continuing? Your brain considers this the “logical explanation” for your terrible feelings, so it comes up with the only possible solution – suicide.
But that’s a big fat lie right there.
Suicide won’t solve your problems.
You might not be feeling pain after dying, but you aren’t feeling anything else too.
You don’t get better after death, you don’t have any condition to think about in the first place!
Being dead isn’t good or bad, it’s just… not existing.
Would you rather stop your pain over reaching true happiness? Really?
I realize that it may seem very unlikely to you that you can do that, especially with your brain whispering all of these harmful words in your ear, but you need to keep trying.
For your sake only. If you don’t give up you can’t fail, right? Once you do succeed, however, won’t that journey to the finish line be worth it?
Yeah, that’s what I thought.
Depression lies to you a lot, so stop listening to it!
We, humans, are terrible judges of value.
We can’t see meaning unless it’s right before out eyes, and with depression – it never is.
So block out these annoying thoughts about life and take action to feel better, to hell with the results! You got this entire website to help you on your way to a happy life, too.
So here’s a quick question for you – In what way does depression lie to you?
Please write down your answers in the comment section below – I go through every single one of them!
If you got something you would like to ask me personally feel free to send an email, I reply to every single one of them!