Truth be told, I myself have been unemployed for over a month now.
I wasn’t fired from my old job or anything, quite the opposite actually, I left out of my own free will.
I got so many job offers at first that I thought I would find a new job in a matter of days.
Due to one reason or another that wasn’t meant to be and I ended up searching with little to no success.
I am not the only one who has this problem.
Many people of all ages can spend a long time searching for a job with little to no success for a variety of reasons ranging from age discrimination all the way to the presentation of their resume.
I am not here to talk about that, though.
Rather, there is a much more subtle problem that haunts those of us who are in between jobs, and that problem refers to our mental state.
The inability to find a job might be difficult to handle, and can harm our self-esteem and confidence, not to mention the anxiety, fear of rejection and the financial side of things.
We earn our living by working, without cash we simply can’t afford to pay for our basic necessities.
The situation is not at all easy, but there are certain things that can make it a little easier to bear
1) Enjoy your newfound freedom
Many people, more so in older generations, find themselves working in the same place for many years.
For them, and to a lesser degree to anyone else, this new sense of freedom is one that they haven’t experienced in a while.
So why not enjoy it while you still have the chance?
You can’t afford to be unemployed forever, but why not make the most of this current situation?
Get invested in a new hobby, travel, do all of those things that you wanted to do for a while now but didn’t have the time.
Being unemployed can be a burden and a great struggle in multiple ways, but it can also provide you with a rare sense of freedom, at least for a short while.
After all, even the most determined of job searchers won’t spend 8 or more hours a day looking for a job.
Another added benefit of enjoying yourself is the fact that you can relax and get back to work at your most optimal condition.
For many of us, our working days can be quite stressful and as such, this opportunity to relax is a very useful one.
Even if it’s not at all welcome.
2) Keep your skills sharp
Over time our skills and talents can deteriorate, assuming that we don’t practice them enough that is.
Even if your performance was great and you were forced to leave for unrelated reasons that doesn’t mean that a month from now you will be able to perform at the same level.
For example, let’s assume that your specialty is finances and banking.
It is very likely that a month from now you might forget at least some nuances and laws regarding your work.
I myself have worked at the bank for a while, and one of my former co-workers took a parental leave after giving birth.
She came back after a few months and needed to be brought back to speed.
This can also be crucial in interviews, where your professional talents may be tested, and it would be a shame for you to not get the position just because you forgot a few details here and there.
3) Separate your income from your quality of life
When we earn consistently we have the tendency to change the way that we live based on our income.
That means that if we earn a lot of money, we are likely to spend a lot of it as well, and if we make very little then we are likely to spend very little.
All of this is done in an attempt to maximize our “quality of life” based on our income.
Many of the things that we spend our money on are entirely worthless.
New cars, gadgets, going to restaurants, cable (Netflix and the like are worthy replacements), brand name products and other impulsive purchases.
These are all wastes of money that you do not, in fact, need.
Yet you convince yourself that you do.
Not only is this approach to money management flawed, but it also leaves you needlessly stressed when you don’t have the cash to preserve your current “quality of life”.
One such example is when you are in between jobs.
This is the most important time for you to manage your finances carefully.
By not spending your money needlessly you can help yourself relax, as well as avoid much unnecessary stress in the near future.
4) Don’t take rejection personally
Many people tend to be too hard on themselves. This isn’t exclusive to any particular group either.
Rather, they tend to be self-critical in all areas of life.
It isn’t so much perfectionism as it is a strong desire to succeed and have things go our way.
Which is why many of us take our failures so personally at all times.
This is a problem that many people who are looking for a job with little success have.
They take their failure personally, believing that it reflects on their quality as people in some shape or form.
It does not.
I myself have worked in HR for a while, and there are many reasons as to why a certain person might not be a good fit for a certain job, even if they do supposedly meet the necessary criteria.
This can range from the way that your resume is organized, all the way to simple biases that certain companies have.
The fact that people do not call you back isn’t necessarily due to you not being good enough, far from it.
In many cases applicants simply drift through the sorting process, so do yourself a favor and don’t take this to heart.
For many of us, for whatever reason, finding a suitable job can be hard, and we are likely to face many rejections.
There are only a few openings for any one position at the most, so for any one person that successfully finds a job there are ten that fail and need to move on.
If you run the numbers, however, you will find that you are very unlikely to never find a job.
In other words, as long as you keep your spirits high and keep going you are guaranteed to eventually succeed.
5) Be more proactive in your efforts
A lot of people get the idea that finding a new job is an organized and clearcut process.
You send your resume to some company, someone gets in touch with you and schedules an interview, and from there you officially begin your involvement with that company, regardless of whether or not they will actually hire you.
This view is actually quite common.
Too bad that it is completely wrong.
The fact is that job postings and the like make only a minuscule portion of all successful hiring efforts.
In reality, the best way to find a job is through connections.
Think about it this way: How many people do you know and can get in touch with?
I am not talking about distant acquaintances that you know from way back, but they don’t need to be close friends either.
Distant friends and close acquaintance can be far more helpful than you could ever imagine.
It is very likely that you know someone who knows someone, now you only need to get on their good side.
This proactive approach doesn’t really end there.
I had a friend who simply took his resume and physically walked from one company to another, presenting his resume and asking if they have any job openings.
He got hired within a week.
This approach actually serves another purpose, a psychological one.
When you sit down and send your resume to companies you are relatively inactive.
After all, new job postings can only appear at a certain rate, so for the most part you do nothing.
By being more proactive you are giving your efforts more weight behind them.
Even if they end up amounting to nothing, taking action whenever possible can be very encouraging, especially if you end up having multiple leads.
Keep on looking!
Job search depression is not uncommon, with most people who experience an inability to find a job experiencing it as well.
That being said, this feeling is not a real disorder by any means.
Rather, it is perfectly normal behavior.
Still, this state of mind does you no good, so you need to correct as soon as possible.
After all, you don’t want it to show during an interview, now do you?
As I have said before, the numbers are on your side and you are bound to find something eventually.
Before you continue your search, I got a question for you – What is your professional field?
I would love to hear more from you, so make sure to write your answers down in the comment section below, I read every single one of them!
If you got any further questions feel free to get in touch via email.