The law of attraction is bullshit.
Pardon my language, but this is something that’s needed to be said.
In truth, I dislike this type of motivational articles, I hate websites that post them just as much.
I pride myself on giving practical, actionable advice without fail.
With that in mind, I can say it to you openly and honestly – the law of attraction is a lie.
For those of you who don’t know what the law of attraction is, allow me to elaborate a bit more.
The “law of attraction” states that positive thoughts will lead to positive experiences. Pretty simple, right?
There’s plenty of truth in that, too.
A placebo, for example, is a fake medicine given to people in order to cure them.
Allow me to rephrase that.
People are given this placebo, believing that it will make them feel better, and it does make them feel better.
This is a fake medicine, so why does it help?
Because people believe it does, this phenomenon is called “The Placebo Effect”
Your subconscious mind is a powerful thing, and once it starts working together with your conscious mind it can lead to great results.
Seems fair right? I mean, there’s plenty of scientific research to back this up. There are many positive experiences and honestly, the idea seems so basic that it should just be called “Newton’s law of psychology”.
You are right, too! There isn’t anything wrong with the general idea itself, that one line actually covers pretty much every cliche psychology blog post about happiness you will ever find.
The “think good, feel good” mantra became the source of multiple books. Like, more than more than one. Some of the writers had a Ph.D. in psychology and human studies, so it can’t be wrong!
And they aren’t, but there is more to it than that.
Remember, no single solution is ever going to be perfect, there’s always going to be “something” there that ruins it. As is, the law of attraction is very easy to fall into because of its basic nature.
But at times it can be a nasty thing that should be avoided, here’s why.
1) You can’t do everything you put your mind to
The law of attraction says that you will have positive experiences due to positive thoughts.
Right, so let’s say I am a poor, broken African kid who wants to be a Nobel prize winner in physics of all things.
Do you think that I will be able to achieve that goal if I put all of my dedication and good faith into it, or will I fail?
Do you see where I’m going with this?
When people claim the impossible and all they do about it is “think positively” they tend to not achieve any meaningful results.
I wonder why…
Truth is, you aren’t some incredible, all-capable creature. You are the average Joe, maybe a bit better, maybe a tad worse.
The average Joe is an extremely capable human, mind you, yet he isn’t a superhero of endless possibilities. You can only accomplish so much, and there’s always going to be someone better than you.
Some people are simply more talented, more capable and more focused than others, that’s a fact of life. No amount of positive thinking is going to change that.
Do you believe that Usain Bolt woke up one day, all smiley and happy, and decided to run until he can run no more to be the best because he knew he could?
He has an intense diet and an intense schedule, not to mention his biological advantages that he honed through years of intense training.
What about Bill Gates? Do you think he just decided to think that he can make an awesome start-up project? Of course not! Bill Gates is a genius who put many hours of study and practice into Microsoft.
Claiming that success is all in a person’s head is an insult to all the effort successful people put into their craft.
2) Positive thoughts aren’t that easy
This one actually mainly deals with people who suffer from anxiety and depression, yet can apply equally to anyone else.
Right, so think good and good things will happen, yeah? A basic cycle, yet another problem emerges – what if you can’t think positively at the moment?
Truth is, bad things happen. Your partner breaks up with you, you break your leg running with terrible shoes, you are feeling inferior or maybe even ugly.
Life isn’t something made of gumdrops and ice cream, it’s a complex thing that pushes back against you.
Here’s the thing, positive thoughts are the end result, the final destination, not the solution.
We all want to be positive and view the world with the same exuberance and wonder as a child, yet we can’t bring ourselves to that level of positivity.
we simply are not that happy, life puts too much of a burden on us.
Believing that you can just be positive is a naive thought at the very least, and harmful at most.
To be positive you need to take actions that will make you positive, build up a life that you are proud to live through.
don’t just sit around and try to force on yourself a fake mindset.
“Fake it until you make it” isn’t going to be much help here either.
3) Positive thoughts tend to replace actions
Derek Sivers once spoke in a TED presentation about how you should keep your goals to yourself, because telling these goals to other people is misinterpreted by your brain as taking action, so even they don’t follow up on what they say they will still feel content with just saying it.
Same thing goes with the law of attraction.
You think positive thoughts, about great things in life and so on, and you are happy with these thoughts.
You don’t actually bother to do more to make your life better. That’s the issue right here, you can’t just sit on a chair, smile towards the ceiling and be happy with that. Well, you can if you are smoking weed, but that’s not all that typical.
Too many thoughts will actually make you think that you have done enough. You won’t be able to take that one needed step to make your life better.
That principle is called “social reality”, and it’s one of the main reasons that most people don’t take action upon their thoughts.
Your reality isn’t great, you are just faking it.
As long as you don’t make some actual changes you aren’t going to get anywhere.
The definition itself is actually pretty inspiring, but when push comes to shove people tend to make all kinds of odd assumptions.
They call it “the secret”, something which already should be raising a few red flags in any sensible person.
People think that this principle is a magical solution, that it replaces the need to act.
They start talking about energies and how willing something to the universe will make it hand it over to you and so on.
At first, I thought that this was just an insult to my intelligence, yet it seems that people are actually buying that load of garbage!
Really, life doesn’t just give you things because you want them badly enough. If it did, I would never have been depressed in the first place!
Look, I don’t mean to rain on your parade or anything like that, but just wanting stuff to be good isn’t going to make stuff good.
You need to act, you need to make changes that will legitimately make you happy. You can’t just lie your way through life, at best it will simply make you obsessive, at worst it could lead you into full-blown delusions.
Strive to positive thoughts and actions, don’t force them upon yourself.
Living a full life is the only way to be happy and positive, and that’s the truth.
Alright, so while you go on and live your life the way you want to, here’s a quick question for you to consider.
“What do you think about the law of attraction? Did it ever help you in the past?”
More than one question, I know, but I have faith in your ability to answer it.
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